"Magic" zaj lus hais uas tej zaum yuav txawm txuag lub txawv txawv sib tham

Txhua yam ntawm peb ib zaug muaj seeb thaum lub sij hawm qhov kev sib tham, thiab yeej tsis xav kom tau rov qab nyob rau hauv tib lub teeb meem no. Raws li ib tug ntawm cov kev cai ntawm tej uas yus hnov, yog tsis muaj tej yam uas yuav tsis tau zoo tuaj nrog kev pab los ntawm zoo xaiv cov nqe lus.

Ntawm no yog xya ncaj ncees pab uas yog npaj txhij ntawm txhua lub caij kom txuag tau tus ua tau txawv txawv sib tham.

compliments

Ntau zaus nyuaj nyuaj rau peb nco ntsoov lub npe ntawm ib tug tshiab acquaintance, vim hais tias feem ntau ntawm peb mloog yog teem rau li cas peb yuav hais tom ntej no. Ib tug ntawm qhov zoo tshaj ua kom yuam kev kom nco ntsoov lub npe nyob rau tib lub sij hawm, kom tsis txhob tus lossis poob ntsej muag thiab txoj hauj lwm ntawm lub interlocutor rau nws tus kheej - ib tug tseem qhuas kuv thiab, thaum rov qab ua dua ib lub npe tshiab. Yog hais tias koj hais tias, piv txwv li, "Alice, kuv yeej nyiam koj hnav ris tsho, nws yog koj tiag no," ces lub npe yuav nco ntsoov ceev thiab phooj ywg tshiab yuav zoo hnov ib tug tseem qhuas kuv thiab. Siv txawj xav thiab unobtrusive compliments yuav pab tau koj tsis tsuas mus rau nco ntsoov lwm tus, tab sis kuj yuav tsum tau nco ntsoov hais tias. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, tom qab qhov zoo lus nyob rau hauv nws qhov chaw nyob rau tus neeg yuav ntau inclined rau kev sib tham, uas yuav pab tau kom tsis txhob poob ntsej muag.

cov lus nug

Kev tshawb fawb qhia tau tias peb ntsuam xyuas kev vam meej ntawm kev sib tham nrog cov neeg tshiab raws li yog tsis muaj ntev li cas peb hais tias, tsis yog tus hais lus. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, neeg feem coob muaj ntau kev lom zem, sib tham txog lawv tus kheej, lawv nyiam ua, yaam puab paub thiab tus neeg mob ntawm lub neej dua noj mov, haus thiab txawm music. Cov ntaub ntawv no yuav pab tau peb tsim lub zoo meej thawj kev sib tham nrog rau nws interlocutors. Yuav ua li cas? Nug txawj xav cov lus nug - cov neeg uas tsis yuav tsum tau luag cov ntaub ntawv tus kheej, tab sis nyob rau tib lub sij hawm kom meej meej qhia tias peb txaus siab nyob rau hauv lawv cov cwm pwm. Koj muaj peev xwm nug txog nyiam cov chav kawm ntawv sab nraum ntawm kev ua hauj lwm, nyiam qhov chaw nyob rau hauv lub zos. Tsis txhob nug cov lus uas yuav muab monosyllabic cov lus teb, raws li tau zoo raws li cov lus nug txog kev ua hauj lwm, tus kheej lub neej thiab txoj. Ib pab xaiv yog cov lus nug ntawm cov feem ntau yuav tsum tshwm sim ntawm lub xyoo rau cov piv txwv.

Riddles thiab otgadki

Muaj ib tug interesting sib tham nyob rau ib co teeb meem yog tsis yooj yim sua. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb yuav tsum tau xav rau hauv nws interlocutor, mus rau kos nws mus rau hauv ib tug "kev ua si." Acquaintance yuav tsum coj daim ntawv ntawm ib tug ntaus pob tesniv match, thiab tsis nyob rau hauv kev sib tham nrog tus neeg tham tus thawj saib xyuas. Ib tug zoo txoj kev uas yuav enliven qhov kev sib tham yog ib tug paub tsis meej. Tom qab togokak peb twb kawm txog yam uas koj nyiam, nyiam qhov chaw, thiab hais txog, koj muaj peev xwm nug tias, "Kwv yees li cas kuv pom nag hmo nyob rau hauv koj nyiam cafe?". Los yog, "Cia kuv twv seb movie ntawm lub novelties koj xav!" Cov txheej txheem no yog ib tug khub rau qhov ntau lub siab lub ntsws kev sib tham.

mus ob peb vas

Muaj yog tsis muaj dab tsi zoo dua ib tug muaj kev vam meej los kom ciali mus nws tus khub. Yog hais tias qhov no yog tsis heev txaus siab rau txoj kev vam meej ntawm kev sib tham, thov kom nws soj ntsuam koj hnub nyob rau ib lub kaum point scale. Qhov no yuav yuam kom cov khub yuav tau xav txog thiab yuav los mus piav qhia nws cov kev ntsuam xyuas. Thaum koj twb tau txais cov lus teb, txawm yog hais tias nws yog ib tug khoom ob, nug tus twg los, yog dab tsi koj yuav ua tau tsa lub kwv yees ntawm tsawg kawg li mus rau tsib. Feem ntau cov yuav, koj tsis tas yuav ua dab tsi, tab sis lub taw yog menyuam.

pab koj tu siab

Nws yog ib daim card, thiab tej zaum qhov zoo tshaj riam phom nyob rau hauv lub arsenal ntawm tej lus qhia, txawm lub feem ntau novice. Cov neeg xav tau kev pab koj tu siab, txawm yog hais tias lawv tsis kam lees nws. Peb yog tag nrho cov txaus siab rau koj paub tias ib tug neeg xav tias peb ua hauj lwm nyuaj, thiab tsa ob tug me nyuam thiab ib tug aub - ib tug lo qhia ua lag ua luam. Tej yam yooj yim lo lus "nws yog tej zaum nyuaj heev" yuav ua rau lub interlocutor xav ntau npaum li cas xis.

Lub tswv yim

Cov nrhiav leej txiv ntawm lub tebchaws United States thiab tus naas ej inventor Benjamin Franklin sau hais tias cov txiv neej uas ib zaug pab peb yuav npaj ua nws rov nrog ntau kev kaj siab tshaj qhov ib tug uas pab peb. Nws cov lus yuav ua kev pom los ntawm kev tshawb fawb. Yog hais tias koj thov kev pab nyob rau hauv kev daws qhov teeb meem, tswv yim, kev los yog tus kheej cov kev xav ntawm ib tug tshiab acquaintance, nws yog feem ntau yuav xav tias tu siab rau koj. Tej zaum qhov no yuav muaj tshwm sim vim hais tias peb txhua tus nyiam mus xav tias pab tau thiab paub neeg. Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj xav mus ua ib tug zoo tswv yim rau cov interlocutor, nug nws rau tswv yim. Thiab tseem ceeb tshaj, qhia rau lawv paub tias koj yuav nrhiav tau nws views heev interesting thiab pab tau.

tiav

Txhua vam meej sib tham yuav tsum tau ib tug txawj heev thiab paub cai tiav. Tsis txhob cia lub sib tham tuaj mus rau tsis muaj dab tsi thiab plunge rau hauv uas ua tau txawv txawv theem thaum tsis sab paub yuav ua li cas - mus ntxiv los yog txiav luam yeeb. Thaum nws los txog rau nws kawg, tas nws elegantly siv kab lus "kuv yuav tsis monopolize koj." Tsis txhob hnov qab ua tsaug rau cov interlocutor rau lub zoo heev lub sij hawm siv thiab kom lawv nco tias koj tau txaus siab tau ntsib koj.

Yog hais tias koj muaj ib tug neeg sab nrauv, koj yuav xaus qhov kev sib tham nrog cov kab lus "kuv zoo siab rau kev sib tham, tab sis kuv xav hais tias ib yam dab tsi rau kuv tus phooj ywg ua ntej nws yoojyim." Tsis txhob hnov qab hais txog ib tug muaj kev vam meej hu txoj cai: nws yog ib qho zoo rau cuam tshuam nws nyob rau hauv lub ncov, dua li muab nws xaub rau hauv lub qhov taub.