Cov kev cai ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg: yooj yim thiab zoo

Kev sib txuas lus - ib feem ntawm tib neeg lub neej. Txhua txhua hnub peb tuaj mus rau hauv kev sib cuag nrog coob tus neeg - nrog tsev, lug txhawb cov miv, ua lag ua luam, cov phooj ywg, thiab kuj nrog teb tias - nyob rau hauv lub khw, cov subway thiab nyob rau hauv txoj kev. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas qhov no kev sib txuas lus yog tso dag tso luag rau ob leeg interlocutors, raws li zoo raws li tsim. Tom qab tag nrho, nws hom phiaj tseem ceeb? Qhov ntawd yog txoj cai, cov kev pauv ntawm cov ntaub ntawv, kev xav, txoj kev xav thiab cwj pwm txawv. Nws yuav tsum hais txog cov lo lus 'kev sib nrig sib', uas yog, txhua lub interlocutors yuav tsum to taub thiab hnov los ntawm lwm tus, los yog kev chim siab zaum yuav tshwm sim nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej, to taub yuam kev, thiab thaum kawg - thiab quarrels. Uas yog vim li cas peb txhua tus cia li yuav tsum tau paub cov kev cai sib txuas nrog cov neeg. Yuav ua li cas yog nws, dab tsi lawv yog - qhov no yuav tsum los sib tham nyob rau hauv no tsab xov xwm, yog li ntawd thov nyeem kom zoo zoo cov ntaub ntawv yog yeej pab tau rau koj.

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Psychologists hais tias cov kev cai ntawm kev txuas lus nrog cov neeg - nws yog ib yam ntawm cov tsis muaj sau code. Nws yuav pab tau yog ib tug zoo conversationalist, uas nws lub tswv yim yog yeej ib txwm mloog thiab hais tias yog yeej ib txwm ib tug txais tos qhua nyob rau hauv tej lub tsev. Cov muaj peev xwm sib txuas lus yog tseem ceeb heev thaum lub sij hawm ua lag ua luam kev sib khom lus nrog cov neeg koom tes. Tau, thiab nws tsis cuam tshuam nyob rau hauv lub qub neej. Ib tug neeg uas paub txog cov kev cai ntawm kev txuas lus nrog cov neeg thiab thov lawv nyob rau hauv kev xyaum, yeej ib txwm muaj ib tug ntau ntawm zoo phooj ywg thiab cov acquaintances, nws yog ib txwm zoo siab.

Down nrog kev tsim txom!

Tab sis koj ua dab tsi yog tias koj tsis paub yuav ua li cas rau kev sib txuas lus nrog lwm tus neeg? Tej kev sim mus hais lus nrog tus neeg uas koj ntshai los, koj yuav pib zog los yog kiag li tsis nco qab yuav hais li cas. Nws tshwm sim? Ces ua raws li peb tej yam yooj yim lub tswv yim. Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, nco ntsoov thawj thiab feem ntau tseem ceeb txoj cai: koj muaj kiag li tsis muaj dab tsi yuav tsis txaj muag ntawm lwm tus neeg. Koj muaj peev xwm sib txuas lus nrog txhua leej txhua tus nyob rau hauv vaj huam sib luag footing. Nug cov lus nug, thov kev pab los yog qhia cov lus qhia. Kev sib txuas lus - ib tug kiag li tej yam ntuj tso tus txheej txheem, yog li muab pov tseg rau hauv lub ceg thiab pib tham nrog txhua tus neeg. Koj saib, nws yog ib qho yooj yim. Thiab tam sim no peb mam 5 cai ntawm sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb muaj ntau ntau, tab sis peb yuav highlight lub feem ntau yooj yim.

Cov kev cai ntawm kev sib txuas lus ntawm cov neeg

Yog li ntawd, yog tias koj xav los ua ib tug zoo conversationalist:

1. Ua tib zoo mloog rau txhua lwm yam thiab tsis txhob cuam tshuam. Cia nws hais lus, tsuas yog ces yuav tawm tswv yim thiab nug cov lus nug. Nco ntsoov hais tias txhua tus neeg ntshaw kom muaj kev hnov. Tsis txhob tsis kam lees nws tias. Koj hlub koj tus kheej, thaum koj ua tib zoo mloog, tsis yog nws?
2. Yog hais tias koj tsis pom zoo nrog nws tus khub, nyob rau hauv tsis muaj cov ntaub ntawv tsis ua nws tsis paub lus, thiab tsis thuam nws. Sim kom to taub txog nws qhov point of view. Yog hais tias peb xav tias nws yog kiag li tsis ncaj ncees lawm, maj mam muab thiab kindly qhia rau nws txog nws. Sim nrhiav ib tug hais nruab nrab.
3. Deyl Karnegi, ib tug naas ej American psychologist, cav hais tias qhov yuav tsum tau hu mus rau thaum lub sij hawm ib tug kev sib tham ib tug neeg los ntawm lub npe. Yog li koj yog nyob rau qib subconscious, hu nws credibility, thiab kev sib txuas lus yuav ntau npaum li cas qab ntxiag. Tus txiv neej pom tau tias nws tseem ceeb. Carnegie hais tias: "Nco ntsoov hais tias cov tib neeg lub suab ntawm nws lub npe yog lub tseem ceeb tshaj plaws thiab qab zib lub suab ...". Tsis txhob hnov qab txog nws.
4. Nco paub cai thiab ua tib zoo hais. Tsis daring mus nug cov lus nug, thiab koj yuav tsum tsis txhob muab tso rau tus neeg nyob rau hauv ib tug txawv txawv qhov teeb meem no thiab ua kev lom zem ntawm nws lub shortcomings, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm neeg.
5. Xav nyob rau hauv lub neej thiab tej kev ua hauv lwm. Yog hais tias ib tug neeg qhia koj txog koj qhov teeb meem, ua tiag pab nws unobtrusive thiab xav tau tswv yim, tab sis nws yuav tsum tsis txhob yuav sab. Nyob rau hauv qhov yuav tsum tau paub tias thaum twg yuav tau txiav.

Tus neeg tsis muaj peev xwm ua phooj ywg

Muaj tej yam teeb meem thaum koj yuav tau mus tham kom tiav neeg. Koj tau tuaj mus rau ib tog twg cov los ntawm ib tug phooj ywg. Koj cia li nchuav ib tug tshiab pab neeg nyob rau hauv lub tsev kawm ntawv los yog chaw ua hauj lwm. Tej lub sijhawm tej zaum yuav muaj ntau yam. Yog li ntawd, koj yuav tsum nco ntsoov cov kev cai ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog neeg:

1. Nco paub cai. Tsis txhob cia koj tus kheej tsis paub lus hais txog ib tug neeg lub cev los yog nws hnav.
2. Tab sis yuav ua tsaug qhuas ib tug zoo nkauj accessories, hniav nyiaj hniav kub los yog cov khaub ncaws. Txhua tus neeg yuav txaus siab yog tias koj kos nws kev txiav txim zoo ntawm style.
3. Luag, tab sis dua, ua tsaug. Stretched luag ua repulsively.
4. Sim nrhiav ncauj lus rau kev sib tham. Nws yog tau hais tias koj muaj ib qho kev txaus siab los yog yam uas koj nyiam. Yog hais tias koj twb paub lawm hais tias koj muaj nrog ib tug neeg muaj tsis muaj dab tsi uas koom siab ua ke koj, cia li tham rau nws txog lub yav dhau los txheej xwm nyob rau hauv lub teb chaws los yog nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj teb no. Nws yog ua tau rau pib cov kev sib tham. Tsis txhob yuav ntsiag to thiab tos rau lwm yam mus rau nrhiav tau ib lub ntsiab. Nco zoo siab thiab tus phooj ywg.
5. Tsis txhob ntshai mus dag. Feem ntau cov yuav, qhov yuav txaus siab rau koj kev txiav txim zoo ntawm kev lom zem, thiab nws yuav pab tau koj tau txais los ze zog.
6. Yog hais tias lwm tus neeg yog tham phem nyob rau hauv koj hom lus thiab cov txawv teb chaws hom lus uas koj paub zoo, tsis txhob tos hais tias. Koj yuav tsis tau tsuas yog pab txhawb cov hauj lwm ntawm nws tus khub, tab sis kuj qhia tias peb hwm nws.

Nco ntsoov hais tias cov saum toj no kev cai yog ib qho yooj yim sib txuas lus nrog cov neeg, tab sis lawv yuav pab tau koj nyob rau hauv lub neej txhua hnub thaum lub sij hawm sib tham nrog leej twg. Tsis txhob hnov qab mus muab lawv mus rau hauv xyaum!