Self-sau qoob, Psychology
Teeb meem daws teeb meem
Nyob rau hauv feem ntau tsis sib haum, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb mus nrhiav ib txoj kev los daws lawv. Qhov no daim ntawv qhia tej zaum yuav zoo li cuab kev, tab sis muaj coob tus neeg suppress lawv txoj kev chim los yog tsuas yog "tau nrog." Lawv xav hais tias daws teeb meem - ib txoj kev ntawm kev tsim lwm yam, yog li cia li kom nyob ntsiag to, yog tias tsis txaus siab nrog ib yam dab tsi. Tu siab, nws yog tsis zoo sij hawm ntev lub tswv yim. Nyob rau hauv ib tes, cov teeb meem uas tej teeb meem yuav ua tau kom siab thiab ntxiv tsis sib haum nyob rau hauv cov kev sib raug. Nyob rau lwm cov tes, ceeb tshaj dua, kev teeb meem yuav ua tau muaj ib tug tsis zoo feem on tib neeg noj qab haus huv.
Tu siab, daws teeb meem, nws yog tej zaum nyuaj heev. Kev npaj siab yuav ua tau kom qhov teeb meem no heev tshaj.
Kom tsis txhob no, koj yuav tsum paub qhov yooj yim txoj kev ntawm kev daws kev tsis sib haum.
Tau nyob rau hauv kov nrog rau lawv txoj kev xav
Ib qho tseem ceeb tivthaiv uas yuav pab daws kev tsis sib haum, yog lub khiav ntawm lub txoj kev xav thiab ncus. Nws yuav zoo li uas koj cov kev xav yuav tsum tau pom koj, tiam sis qhov no yog tsis ib txwm rooj plaub. Tej zaum peb xav tias txoj kev chim siab los yog chim siab, tab sis tsis paub yog vim li cas. Nyob rau hauv lwm yam mob, peb ntseeg hais tias lwm tus neeg tsis ua li cas nws "yuav tsum", tiam sis peb tsis paub raws nraim li cas peb xav tau los ntawm nws. Yog li ntawd, nws yuav ua tau zoo tau nyob rau hauv kov nrog rau lawv tus kheej txoj kev xav, kev xav thiab kev ntshaw.
Xyum koj mloog txawj
Thaum nws los txog rau efficiency nyob rau hauv kev daws teeb meem ntawm kev tsis sib haum, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau cov muaj peev xwm ua tib zoo mloog lwm tus neeg. Peb paub yuav ua li cas peb yuav tau ua nws cia li raws li pab tau raws li to taub lawv txoj kev xav thiab ncus. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom nkag siab txog qhov teeb meem los ntawm lub foundations ntawm lwm tus neeg, tsis yog nws tus kheej, yog hais tias peb xav mus rau ib tug kev sib nrig sib pom zoo. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, ib tug yooj yim to taub txog dab tsi koj hnov thiab to taub - qhov no yog qhov tseeb txoj kev mus rau qhov chaw qhov teeb meem ntawm "ib tug hais daws teeb meem ntawm kev tsis sib haum."
Tu siab, active mloog - ib qho txuj uas tsis txhua leej txhua tus muaj. Ib tug ntau misconception yog tias tus neeg xav hais tias lawv mloog Vajtswv lus, thiab nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb nyob rau hauv lawv cov minds formulated rau nram qab no cov lus teb, seething xav txog koj tus kheej, hais txog yuav ua li cas tsis ncaj ncees lawm rau lwm tus neeg, thiab lwm yam
Xyaum hais kev sib txuas lus
Sawv daws yeej paub hais tias tsis ncaj ncees lawm, tsis paub hais tej zaum yuav muab pov roj rau qhov hluav taws kub thiab exacerbate teeb meem. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb yuav tsum tau hais dab tsi yog tsim nyog, tseeb thiab assertive, tab sis tsis txhoj puab heev, tsis txhob ua rau lwm tus neeg defensive. Ib tug ntawm qhov zoo tshaj tswv yim rau kev daws teeb meem nyob rau hauv no hais txog yog kev siv ntawm nws tus kheej-hypnosis zoo, "Kuv xav tias ..." (paub hais tias, nyob twj ywm, thiab lwm yam)).
Nrhiav rau ib cov tshuaj
Thaum koj to taub qhov pom ntawm lwm tus neeg, thiab nws yuav to taub koj li, nws yog lub sij hawm mus nrhiav txoj kev los daws kev tsis sib haum uas yuav nplua ob sab. Tej zaum nws yog ib qho zoo mus rau to taub lub taw tes ntawm view ntawm lub interlocutor. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, ib tug yooj yim apology yuav ua hauj lwm cov kev xav, thiab qhib kev sib tham - coj neeg los ze zog ua ke. Nyob rau hauv tus neeg mob qhov twg muaj ib tug teeb meem ntawm qhov teeb meem, nyob rau hauv uas muaj cov sib txawv, muaj ntau ntau cov kev xaiv: koj yuav tsis pom zoo nrog txhua lwm yam, tab sis nws yog ua tau mus nrhiav dabtsi los yog nruab nrab hauv av. Los yog hais tias koj xav tias ntseeg nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem thiab yuav ua rau lawv tus kheej, tab sis nws yuav tsum tau to taub hais tias lub sij hawm tom qab koj yuav tsum tau muab txoj kev.
impossibility ntawm dlaws
Yog hais tias qhov teeb meem kav ntev ntev, nws yog tej zaum ntshaw kom muaj cai ib yam kev sib raug zoo nrog tus nrog sib ntaus rau ib tug tej lub sij hawm ntawm lub sij hawm los yog mus tas li. Nyob rau hauv tus neeg mob muaj kev tsim txom, piv txwv li, cov kev hem thawj ntawm lub cev ua phem - tus kheej muaj kev ruaj ntseg yuav tsum muaj ib yam tseem ceeb. Thaum uas soj ntsuam txog ib tug neeg hauv tsev neeg, ces ntxiv ib co kev txwv, nws tseem tau mus cuag ib lub thaj yeeb coexistence. Cov phooj ywg kev sib raug zoo (nyob rau hauv lub rooj plaub uas daws teeb meem yog tsis yooj yim sua) nws yog tsim nyog yuav tsum tsis txhob sib txuas lus. Nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, xwb koj yuav txiav txim siab seb puas yuav tau zoo tuaj kev sib raug zoo los yog tseem yuav tau nres lawv.
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