Yuav ua li cas rau cov ntaub ntawv rau kev sib nrauj - cov lus thiab nuances

Yog hais tias koj txiav txim siab mus ua txhaum lub tsev neeg sib raug zoo thiab txoj kev sib nrauj, cia li poob pliaj cwj pwm txawv, tseem ceeb tshaj, qhov kev txiav txim twb tau ua thiab tshee txog no pointless thiab noj qab haus huv yog tsis zoo. Ua ntej yuav ua li cas sau ntawv rau kev sib nrauj, muab ib daim ntawv ntawm daim ntawv thiab kos tus cim rau milestones rau koj tus kheej nyob rau hauv koj tsev neeg lub neej: kev sib yuav, yug me nyuam ntawm cov me nyuam, yuav muaj tej yam, khoom siv, vaj tse nyob thiab lwm tus neeg. Cov me nyuam me nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv ntawm kev sib nrauj - ib daim sib tham, thiab peb kov. Thiab pom cov pob qij cov khoom uas muaj npe teev rau ntawm daim ntawv, nws yuav yooj yim rau pib cov txheej txheem seem. Yog li ntawd, saib ob peb yam teeb meem.

Qhov ob peb sau npe nyob rau hauv ntau lub zos

Thov nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug cov ntaub ntawv yog ua tau. Txoj cai tso cai rau cov ntaub ntawv ntawm neeg pab leg ntaubntawv rau kev sib nrauj nyob rau qhov chaw ntawm qhov chaw nyob ntawm tus foob, tsis yog tus neeg raug foob. Yog hais tias koj muaj cov me nyuam me uas nyob nrog koj, thiab tawm mus tsev rau qhov chaw ntawm qhov chaw nyob ib tug txij nkawm yog ib qhov nyuaj, koj muaj peev xwm xa ib daim ntawv thov mus rau lub tsev hais plaub ntawm qhov chaw ntawm nws tus kheej npe. Nyob rau lwm cov tes, yog hais tias muaj yog tsis muaj cov me nyuam, cov kev sib nrauj kev sib nrig sib, cuav ntawm ib daim ntawv thov yuav siv sij hawm qhov chaw xwb nyob rau hauv lub seem ntawm kev cuv npe ntawm kev sib yuav. Koj yuav xa ib daim ntawv thov sau npe tsab ntawv nrog ib daim ntawv teev cov txheem , los yog coj mus rau kev mloog lus ntawm ntseeg cov neeg (cov phooj ywg, cov niam txiv). Ib tug qauv daim ntawv thov rau kev sib nrauj yuav tsum tau nyob rau hauv lub npe chaw ua hauj lwm nyob rau hauv lub qhov chaw ntawm koj tam sim no npe. Nyob rau hauv lub qhaj ntawv ntawm cov kev tso cai ntawm ib tug txij nkawm rau kev sib nrauj, daim ntawv thov yuav raug xa mus rau cov tsev hais plaub.

Ib tug txij nkawm yog nkaum

Xws li mob tej zaum yuav tshwm sim los ntawm ib tug ua kom tiav thiab mob rupture ntawm kev sib raug zoo, cov nuj nqis rau tshuav nuj tshuav nqi, ntaubntawv, zam ntawm nyiaj - dab tsi yuav tshwm sim. Yog hais tias koj muaj nyob rau hauv qhov teeb meem no, thov xa mus rau lub tus nom ntawm qhov chaw ntawm lub xeem paub qhov chaw nyob tus txij nkawm. Qauv daim ntawv thov rau kev sib nrauj mus rau lub tsev hais plaub nyob rau hauv xws li mob yuav muab tau los ntawm cov nom nyob rau hauv ib tug lub tsev hais plaub ntawm kev cai lij choj los yog kev cai lij choj cov tswv yim pab. Yog koj ua tiav daim ntawv thov neeg ua pov thawj thov koj tso cai rau kev sib nrauj tsis muaj koj lub xub ntiag, muab "lub sij hawm rau rog xav txog thiab reconciliation." Nco ntsoov mus saib qhov chaw nyob uas koj yuav xa cov kev sib nrauj ntaub ntawv. Ua ntej koj yuav sau ntawv rau kev sib nrauj thiab xa ib tsab ntawv, them rau lub xeev tus nqi (txais daim ntawv no kuj txuas mus rau hauv daim ntawv thov).

Kev sib nrauj thiab cov me nyuam

Los ntawm kev txiav txim siab ntawm tus poj niam lub kev sib nrauj yog tau rau yuav luag txhua lub sij hawm, koj tsuas xav tau koj daim ntawv qhia. Los ntawm nws tus txiv qhov no yog tsis ib txwm sib nrauj yog tsis yooj yim sua, yog hais tias tus poj niam yog cev xeeb tub, thiab cov me nyuam yog tsawg tshaj li ib xyoo. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, koj muaj peev xwm dhau ib leeg nrog nws tus poj niam, nyob rau hauv koj lub hwj chim mus sib nrog lub "yav tas los" ntawm lub faib tej teej tug, yug me nyuam. Cov hauj lwm kev sib nrauj ntaub ntawv koj yuav tau txais tsuas yog tom qab thawj hnub ntawm koj tus me nyuam tus me nyuam. Nco ntsoov ib yam: yuav ua li cas sau ntawv rau kev sib nrauj - ib tug txheej txheem kom tau nyiaj rau cov menyuam yaus - rau lwm yam. Thiab yeej tsis muaj kev sib nrauj tsis hais yeej muab nyiaj. Qhov no yog ua los ntawm ib tug ntxiv daim ntawv qhia.

Ntawm cov hoob kawm, txhua txhua leej niam leej txiv yog yuam ua hauj lwm rau kev pab rau lawv cov me nyuam, thiab vice versa. Ua txaus muab cov me nyuam nyiaj tau thiab ua tau. Tab sis ua nws zoo dua, los ntawm kev sib nrig sib pom zoo, thiab tsis los ntawm kev quab yuam. Yog hais tias lub kev sib raug zoo yog phem, puas siab puas ntsws tom qab ua ntej koj ua ntaub ntawv rau kev sib nrauj, tsis yog tus zoo tshaj plaws nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg. Tiam sis muaj ib qhov tseeb - cov me nyuam loj hlob thiab feem ntau muaj lawv tus kheej lub tswv yim nrog rau kev hwm rau cov niam txiv. Cov tsim ntawm no lub tswv yim, nyob rau hauv siab yog undesirable. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog vim hais tias cov deprivation ntawm niam txiv cov cai tsis noj qhov chaw nyob rau qhov kev txiav txim rau kev sib nrauj. Tsis muaj dab tsi pub ua tem toob zus laus thiab nws leej txiv los yog leej niam tom qab ib co sij hawm mus foob ib tug thov nyiaj rau nyiaj los ntawm nws tus me nyuam vim hais tias ntawm nws tus kheej ua raug sawvdawd dig.

Yog xav paub ntxiv txog yuav ua li cas sau ntawv rau kev sib nrauj, koj yuav nrhiav tau raws li txoj cai tawm tswv yim, yog tias koj qhov teeb meem yog nyuab tshaj li peb tau kawm.