Puas thiab constructive teeb meem

Feem ntau cov neeg xav seb qhov teeb meem purely tsis zoo tshwm sim, uas tsuas ua rau quarrels, controversies thiab kev puas tsuaj. Cuaj kaum, qhov no yog ib tug misconception. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd mus rau lub tug, tseem muaj cov yam ntxwv tsis sib haum uas ua rau lub rooj ntawm qhov ntau thaum muaj teeb meem.

Txhais cov ntsiab lus

Ib tug tej teeb meem yog ib tug tej yam contradiction los yog standoff uas tshwm sim vim cov incompatibility ntawm qhov kev txaus siab ntawm ob tog. Nws yuav tshwm sim ntawm cov tib neeg los yog tej pawg nyob rau hauv tus txheej txheem ntawm lub neej.

Nyob rau hauv raws li qhov xwm ntawm cov teebmeem, psychologists paub qhov txawv puas thiab constructive teeb meem. Nyob rau hauv thawj cov ntaub ntawv, yuav muaj tsis muaj dab tsi tab sis sib cav sib ceg, tsis zoo thiab strained kev sib raug zoo. Tej zaum puas muaj teeb meem yuav mus rau theem ntawm lub cev ua phem. Feem ntau lawv tshwm sim los ntawm tus kheej heev heev, prejudice, muaj siab xav profits.

Lig opposite lub ntsiab lus muaj yam ntxwv tsis sib haum. Lawv pab mus rau kev daws teeb meem ntawm pom thiab thaum teeb meem, daws nro nyob rau hauv pab neeg IEP, lub strengthening ntawm tus phooj ywg kev sib raug zoo. Thaum nws los txog rau cov lag luam, cov tswj feem ntau txhob txwm tshaj tawm ntxias tsis sib haum, kom defuse lub rhuab cua.

Constructive thiab puas muaj teeb meem - qhov teeb meem ntawm kev ntsuag

Nws yog ib nqi sau cia hais tias lub confrontation ntawm cov neeg los yog tej pawg yog heev yooj yim mus ntsuam xyuas. Txiav txim seb lub hom yog tsis ib txwm tau vim cov hauv qab no lub hom phiaj yam:

• Yog tsis muaj tseeb kev nyob rau hauv raws li uas paub qhov txawv cov constructive thiab puas muaj teeb meem. Feem ntau cov feem ntau, qhov no yuav ua tau tsuas yog tom qab lub confrontation, thaum nws yuav raug soj ntsuam lub txim (thiab txawm nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, cov lus teb tej zaum yuav tsis tsum tau tshwj xeeb).
• Ntau ntau lub teeb meem, tsis hais txog ntawm qhov ib puag ncig nyob rau hauv uas lawv tshwm sim, yog yus li constructive thiab puas zog ib txhij.
• Cov yam ntxwv standoff tej zaum yuav txawv muaj nuj nqis nyob ntawm seb nws yog nyob rau ib theem xwb. Constructive teeb meem yuav ua li ntawd tsuas yog tom qab lub mob theem, los yog vice versa - mus rau kev puas tsuaj.
• Nyob rau hauv nrug muaj feem luj qhov teeb meem yuav tsum coj mus rau hauv tus account lub subjective sab. Piv txwv li, ib tug neeg sab nrauv yuav xav txog nws constructive, thiab rau lwm tus, nws yuav coj ib tug puas xwm. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb coj mus rau hauv tus account lub paj ntawm peb ob tog, uas muaj peev xwm pib lub confrontation.

Constructive zog ntawm kev sib raug teeb meem

Txawm tias tag nrho cov tsis zoo connotation xws li ib tug teeb meem, nws ua ib tug xov tooj ntawm kev khiav dej num ntawm zoo qhov tseem ceeb. Yog li, constructive sab uas muaj teeb meem raws li nram no:

• teeb meem qhia rau contradictions thiab teeb meem nyob rau lub sij hawm thaum lawv tau mus txog maturity thiab yog nyob rau hauv yuav tsum tau tam sim ntawd tshem tawm;
• Nws muaj peev xwm ua raws li ib tug mechanism tso nro nyob rau hauv lub zej zog thiab los daws qhov teeb meem no, uas yog ib qhov chaw ntawm kev nyuaj siab;
• cov tib neeg muaj peev xwm muaj kev, uas qhia kev sib nrig sib to taub thiab nyob rau hauv cov kev tshawb fawb rau txoj kev tawm ntawm qhov teeb meem;
• ua hais tsis sib haum daws teeb meem thiab xa nws qhov chaw social system yuav ruaj khov;
• lub sij hawm sawv teeb meem yuav ceeb toom ntawm loj tsis sib haum thiab contradictions.

Yog li, nws yog tsis yooj yim sua mus hais lus unequivocally hais txog tsis zoo xwm ntawm qhov teeb meem. Constructive kev sib haum xeeb yog tsis tswj lub aggravation, thiab daws cov teeb meem.

Lub Khoos Loos Tsev nta ntawm lus tsis sib haum

Constructive lus teeb meem muaj raws li nram no zoo nta:

• Nws tso cai rau koj mus nrhiav tau qhov tseeb xwm ntawm cov yam ntxwv ntawm tus nrog sib ntaus, tab sis kuj yuav qhia qhov tseeb motives ntawm nws tus cwj pwm;
• teeb meem xwm txheej yuav pab ntxiv dag zog rau qhov thiab tsim ntawm tus neeg;
• txhawb lub adaptation ntawm tus neeg nyob hauv zej zog, nws tus kheej-realization thiab nws tus kheej-txoj lus pom zoo.

Puas muaj teeb meem muaj nuj nqi

Rau kev tsis sib haum tsiag ntawv los ntawm cov nram qab no puas zog:

• vim lub fact tias cov standoff yuav mus los ntawm ib tug hais lus cev, yuav muaj cov ntaub ntawv uas poob thiab tib neeg casualties;
• disorganization ntawm haiv neeg nyob rau hauv view ntawm lub tensions;
• lub slowdown nyob rau hauv nyiaj txiag thiab kev loj hlob nyob rau hauv view ntawm lub ua txhaum cai ntawm lus thiab intergroup kev sib raug zoo;
• nyob rau hauv tus txheej txheem ntawm confrontation yuav qhib tshiab tsis sib haum, uas yuav tsum tau ntawm ntau txawm tias puas xwm;
• yuav txo tau kev qhuab qhia thiab tsis meej pem;
• deterioration nyob rau hauv lub hlwb kev nyab xeeb nyob rau hauv lub tuam txhab los yog haiv neeg;
• los ntawm tus taw tes ntawm view ntawm ib tug neeg cwm pwm yuav tsim nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg, ntxhov siab tuaj nyob rau hauv kev ntseeg thiab qhov tseem ceeb;
• tsis zoo luj xyuas ntawm lwm leej lwm tus;
• thaum lub sij hawm qhov teeb meem yuav ua rau kev tiv thaiv mechanisms ntawm lub psyche, uas yuav ua tau kom puas cwj pwm , los yog kab mob kas.

Hom ntawm kev tsis sib haum personalities

Constructive daws mus rau teeb meem yog tsis ib txwm tau vim tus neeg yam ntxwv ntawm nws cov tswv cuab. Psychologists yog rau hom personalities uas feem ntau tuaj rau hauv tej teeb meem nrog lwm tus neeg:

• demonstrative - zoo li nyob hauv nruab nrab, heev lub siab lub ntsws, thiab yog li ntawd yog feem ntau lub initiators ntawm kev tsis sib haum thiab confrontations;
• txhav - vim hais tias ntawm inflated self-esteem , thiab resentment feem ntau tsis quav ntsej txog views thiab kev txaus siab ntawm lwm tus neeg, uas yog vim li cas muaj yeej loj heev tsis sib haum;
• unmanaged - yus muaj los ntawm ntau ntau impulsiveness thiab tsis muaj ntawm nws tus kheej-tswj kev txawj ntse;
• ultra-leej - ib yam nkaus thiab xav rau lawv tus kheej thiab lwm leej lwm tus, kus kes kom meej, Distrustful;
• teeb meem - txhob txwm tuaj mus rau hauv tej teeb meem nrog cov surrounding, piv txwv tias yog ib txoj kev muab tus cwj pwm thiab lub hom phiaj;
• teeb meem-dawb - yog ntshai ntawm tej kev tsis sib haum thiab confrontations, raws li ib tug tshwm sim muaj peev xwm ntxias aggression thiab npau taws ntawm lwm tus neeg, uas ua rau yus cov lus rov nyhuv.

Qauv ntawm teeb meem coj cwj pwm

Muaj peb yooj yim qauv ntawm teeb meem coj cwj pwm, namely:

• Puas tsiag ntawv los ntawm lub siab xav mus thab cov confrontation thiab tsa tensions. Txiv neej tej zaum yuav sim mus koom nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem ntau heev tshaj dua cov neeg tuaj koom, expanding nws tau. Cov qauv no yog yus muaj los ntawm cov nram qab no:
  
  • kev tsis saib xyuas ntawm ib tug khub nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav txo nws lub luag hauj lwm nyob rau hauv kev daws cov kev tsis sib haum;
  • ib tug tus kheej thuam thiab tsis zoo ua tau zoo kev ntsuam xyuas;
  • qhib kev qhia ntawm mistrust thiab tsis ntseeg;
  • thim rov qab los ntawm tus cuj pwm thiab kev zoo cai ntawm kev sib txuas lus.
• Constructive coj tus cwj pwm nyob rau hauv tej teeb meem purports mus raws li "them" tus txheem thiab kom daws tau qhov teeb meem los ntawm diplomatic raws li sai li sai tau. Yog hais tias ib tog neeg tswj reconciliation, nws pom khi thiab nws tus kheej-tswj, tsis hais txog ntawm tus nrog sib ntaus tus cwj pwm. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb los coj nyob rau hauv ib qho qhib thiab tus phooj ywg, kom reticence.
• Cov dabtsi qauv ntawm tus cwj pwm tswj nrhiav lwm yam los daws, nws yog yus muaj los ntawm insecure personalities. Lawv manifest lawv tus kheej es passive thiab nraim direct cov lus teb rau cov lus nug. Cov neeg koom tsis tau hais txog lub observance ntawm lawv siab nyiam thiab kam ua concessions.

Constructive kev loj hlob ntawm cov teeb meem

Yuav kom muaj teeb meem tsim rau ib tug tsim scenario, lub nram qab no tej yam kev mob yuav tsum tau ntsib:

• Ob tog neeg pom lub hav zoov ntawm sib txawv, sim to taub lawv qhov thiab kom paub txog txoj cai tus nrog sib ntaus los tswj lawv txoj cai thiab upholding tus kheej txoj hauj lwm;
• ua ntej tswv yim los mus tshem tawm cov ua teeb meem, yuav tsum tau kiag li tshem tawm qhov tsis zoo los ntawm tej teeb meem, xws li muaj zog laus, kev sib nrig sib insults thiab hais txog;
• Yog hais tias nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej nws yog tsis yooj yim sua mus cuag ib tug pom zoo, nws tseem tau coj mus rau lub rooj ntawm qhov teeb meem qhov teeb meem no disinterested peb tog neeg uas muaj peev xwm muab ib lub hom phiaj kev soj ntsuam ntawm qhov teeb meem;
• kev tso cai los ntawm tag nrho ob tog rau qhov teeb meem nrog tus tsim kev cai ntawm kev coj cwj pwm uas txhawb txoj kev txuas lus.

Smoothing tug teeb meem

Nws yog ib nqi sau cia hais tias cov tug xwm uas muaj teeb meem yuav ua tau heev cov paaj sij hawm. Nyob rau hauv no hais txog, muaj cov nram qab no constructive txoj kev daws teeb meem:

• Ntaus ntawm cov ua tej teeb meem los ntawm limiting neeg ntawm lub hauv sab. Yog hais tias peb tham txog cov kev tswj ntawm lub koom haum, ces peb yuav tau tham txog lub division ntawm powers los yog lub reshuffle.
• Nce sis ntawm ob tog. Yog hais tias tus txheem tsis ncaj qha mus rau qhov chaw nyob txoj hauj lwm ua, nws yog advisable kom muab tso rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm lawv ib lub hom phiaj uas yuav yuam neeg tuaj koom mus nrhiav ntau yam lus.
• Stimulation ntawm ywj siab nrhiav ib txoj kev tawm ntawm ib tug teeb meem qhov teeb meem no. Thiab nws tsis tau mus nyob rau hauv qib nyob rau hauv cov kev tshwm sim ntawm ib tug thaum ntxov xaus ntawm lub confrontation. Nws yog ua tau los tsim ib tug system ntawm kev nplua uas yuav siv tau nyob rau hauv cov kev tshwm sim hais tias cov lus tsis txaus siab yog tsis tswm.

teeb meem kev tswj

constructive teeb meem kev tswj muaj xws li cov nram qab no lub ntsiab txoj kev:

• Ib tug meej delineation ntawm qhov kev kawm ntawm qhov teeb meem thiab nws cov neeg koom. Nws yog tsis tsim nyog rau thuam tus kheej zoo los yog kev txaus siab. Yog li, tag nrho cov xim kws tsom rua ncaj qha rau ntawm qhov teeb meem.
• Kev loj hlob cov kev xaiv uas siav ob sab. Yuav kom tau tuaj mus rau ib qho kev txiav txim siab, ob tog mus rau lub teeb meem yuav tsum ncaj tag nrho nws cov kev siv zog tsis yog nyob rau ib tus kheej confrontation, thiab mloog zoo lawv nyob rau hauv cov kev tshawb fawb rau lwm txoj kev. Nws yuav tsum sib sau ua ke tiv thaiv cov teeb meem, tsis tawmtsam txhua lwm yam. Qhov no yog ib tug zoo ua hauj lwm txoj kev "tawm tswv yim", uas muaj peev xwm kuj koom nrog cov neeg sab nraud.
• Siv lub hom phiaj kev yuav ib lub hom phiaj zoo ntawm qhov teeb meem tsis hais txog cov kev txaus siab ntawm ob tog rau qhov teeb meem. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no tej zaum nws yuav tsum txiav txim siab mus yuav ruaj khov thiab nruab nrab.
• Ntaus ntawm cov nyhuv principled txaus. Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, txhua ntawm ob tog yuav tsum txiav txim siab nrog dab tsi nws muaj kuab txaus siab nyob rau hauv ib tug scenario. Nws yog tau hais tias cov kev tsis sib haum ob tog yog yuav tsum tau muab qhia, los yog tsawg kawg yuav tsis tau nrog kom.

Tiav ntawm qhov teeb meem

Tiav ntawm qhov teeb meem yuav tshwm sim nyob rau hauv cov nram no cov ntaub ntawv:

• kev daws teeb meem - txheem ob tog los sib koom dag zog mus txog ib tug txiav txim zaum kawg, uas yog ib co twg satisfies lawv nyiam;
• hais sib haum - cov tshem tawm ntawm lub contradictions ntawm ib tug thib peb tog siab;
• attenuation - qhov no yog ib tug ib ntus los yog tiav cessation ntawm active kuj, uas tej zaum yuav yog vim muaj cov havzoov ntawm cov kev pab, cov neeg tuaj koom, thiab nrog rau cov tsis tseeb ntawm cov ua ntawm qhov teeb meem;
• cov tshem tawm ntawm qhov teeb meem yog cov "tshem tawm" ntawm nws cov yam ntxwv hais (tsim tawm ntawm ib tug ntawm ob tog ntawm cov lus tsis txaus los yog lub caij nyoog tsis tuaj kawm ntawv ntawm cov neeg ntawm lub tw, cov neutralization ntawm qhov teeb meem);
• nyob rau hauv tej rooj plaub tam sim no teeb meem yuav ua rau tshiab confrontations nyob ib ncig ntawm cov khoom uas tau kuaj thaum sim nws kev tso cai.

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Txawm tias muaj tseeb hais tias feem ntau cov neeg xav hais tias qhov teeb meem purely tsis zoo tshwm sim, nws tsis yog nkaus ncaj ncees. Zaum nws yuav zoo yuav constructive. Ntxiv mus, nyob rau hauv tej zaum nws tsuas yog tsim nyog. Piv txwv li, cov thawj coj ntawm tej lub koom haum txhob txwm tshaj tawm ntxias constructive kev tsis sib haum nyob rau hauv lub ua hauj lwm. Qhov no yuav pab txheeb xyuas uas twb muaj lawm cov teeb meem, daws kev nyuaj siab thiab tsim tau ib noj qab nyob zoo ua hauj lwm ib puag ncig. Nws tseem yog nqi nco ntsoov tias qhov tseeb mus kom ze rau cov teeb meem kev tswj txawm tug confrontation yuav muaj ib tug constructive xaus.