Hais kom tus npau suav phau ntawv: ib tug npau suav tshoob - zoo los yog tsis?

Txhais lus ntawm kev npau suav - ua hauj lwm tsis yooj yim thiab tsis meej xwm. Txhua yam ntawm tus ntau npau suav phau ntawv txhais lus kev npau suav nyob rau hauv ntau txoj kev thiab tej zaum nyob rau hauv ib tug kiag li opposite xim, uas yog vim li cas nws yog li ntawd ib qho tseem ceeb, tab tom nrhiav nyob rau ntawm lub npau suav txhais lus, ua los ntawm lawv tus kheej txoj kev xav. Provoked seb zoo los tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv npau suav? Yog ntxhov siab vim tam sim no lawm? Tseeb, raws li feem ntau tshwm sim nrog kev npau suav, txawm xws li ib tug zoo kawg kev tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ib tug neeg lub neej raws li ib tug kab tshoob feem ntau ua rau tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv. Muaj ntau cov thwjtim txawm ntseeg hais tias tus npau suav yog ib txwm opposite yog muaj tseeb tiag, uas txhais tau tias cov kab tshoob - ib lub cim ntawm cov teeb meem, tab sis tsis dhia rau cov lus xaus.

Piv txwv li, Wang xav tias cov kab tshoob ib tug zoo kos npe rau. Yog hais tias koj saib nyob rau hauv nws tus npau suav phau ntawv, kab tshoob yuav tsum tau txhais raws li ib tug kev lom zem tog nrog cov phooj ywg. Qhov no tog, txawm li cas los, yuav ua tau kom neeg tuag taus rau koj lub neej. Tus kheej kab tshoob - qhov no cim hais tias nyob rau hauv lub nyob ze yav tom ntej, koj yuav tsum daws tau ib co teeb meem tseem ceeb, tab sis dab tsi muaj nyob rau hauv ib tug neeg lub tshoob raws li ib qho tseem ceeb qhua - ib tug kos npe rau hais tias ib tug zoo phooj ywg los yog hlub ib tug desperately xav tau koj kev pab. Thiab nws yog tsis nqi nws nyob rau hauv no yuav pab tsis kam.

Ib tug yooj yim txhais lus yuav qhia tau tias qhov thiaj li hu ua neeg me me npau suav phau ntawv. Kab tshoob, raws li nws, nruab nrab yog ... lub tshoob! Yog hais tias koj sib yuav lawm los yog ib, muaj cov rau ntawm lub tshoob txhais tau tias tsis ntev koj tsev neeg yuav muaj cov me nyuam. Tus kheej kab tshoob kuj txhais tau hais tias ib tug ntev thiab zoo siab sib yuav lub neej. Yog hais tias tus seev cev hauv lub tshoob nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav tsis nqi nws. Raws li ib tug me me npau suav phau ntawv, xws seev cev tau txhais hais tias sib txawv nrog qhov opposite pw nyob rau hauv lub neej tiag tiag.

Yog hais tias koj thov kom Freud tus npau suav phau ntawv, dab tsi ib tug npau suav kab tshoob, nws yuav tsis nrhiav tau cov kev tsim linkages nrog lub kev sib raug zoo ntawm lub sexes. Oddly txaus, tab sis Freud ntseeg tias sib yuav nruab nrab xwb txoj xov zoo, uas yuav sai sai no yuav tau txais cov neeg, uas tau pom nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav tshoob. Tus kheej kab tshoob kuj yog loj semantic load. Raws li Freud, nws nruab nrab yog ib co zoo ntawm khoom plig los yog ib tug zoo surprise tos rau tus neeg nyob rau hauv lub nyob ze yav tom ntej.

Ntau uas nws kim heev kev txhais muab npau suav Miller. Ntawm no koj yuav pom ib co ntawm cov tsis zoo nta feem ntau kws kho rau lub tshoob, pom nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog txaus ntshai, raws li tus npau suav phau ntawv, kab tshoob, kawm los ntawm cov neeg nyob rau hauv kev quaj ntsuag. Qhov no txawv txawv thaum lawv tseem nyob rau ntawm nws tus kheej kab tshoob qhia miserable lub neej ua ke, thiab yog hais tias nws tshwm sim rau ib tug neeg lwm tus tshoob - cov miserable lub neej ntawm tus nraug vauv los yog tus nkauj nyab. Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd, Npau suav Miller ntseeg hais tias kab tshoob kev nyab xeeb kos npe rau ib tug tom ntej mus txawv tebchaws. Nws tej zaum yuav mus chim siab los yog loj heev teeb meem. Kab tshoob tib lover nrog lwm tus poj niam (los yog vice versa) yog baseless ntshai thiab xam khib.

Ib tug ntau yam ntawm nrov npau suav phau ntawv muab ntau txawm tias tsis kaj siab parallels ntawm kev sib yuav, pom nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav thiab lub neej tiag tiag. Yog hais tias koj saib nyob rau hauv lub Ukrainian npau suav phau ntawv, ib tug kab tshoob hais tias koj ua npau suav ntawm, tej zaum koj yuav hem kom ntshai, vim hais tias nws nruab nrab yog cov tuag, kab mob thiab tag nrho cov hom ntawm cov teeb meem. Tab sis mus saib tau tus kab tshoob tsheb ciav hlau - nws yog ib tug zoo kos npe rau, qhia tias koj yuav sai sai no lub caij nplooj zeeg nyob rau hauv kev hlub nrog tus opposite pw ua niam txiv. Muaj ntau ntau sib txawv txhais ntawm dab tsi nws pom nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav kab tshoob, nws tej zaum yuav qhia ib co tseem ceeb heev cov txheej xwm nyob rau hauv lub neej ntawm lub xeev cov nyiaj siv, thiab lwm yam

Yuav ua li cas tsis tau poob rau hauv xws li ib tug ntau yam ntawm txhais? Qhov tseeb hais tias tus txhais lus los ntawm tus neeg lub neeg npau suav. Qhov zoo tshaj plaws uas koj yuav ua - yog mus nrhiav koj tus npau suav txhais lus, txhais lus ntawm kev npau suav, lub tshoob, uas yog pom raws li qhov zoo tshaj plaws suited rau koj. Nws yog yuav hais tias nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej no npau suav phau ntawv no yuav muab rau koj ib tug muaj tseeb txhais lus ntawm koj tus npau suav. Thiab tsis txhob hnov qab tias txhais lus, lom zem ntau nyob ntawm seb tus cwj pwm txawv koj tau Yog ua pom nyob rau hauv ib tug npau suav tshoob.