Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav kev hlub, yeej muaj tseeb?

Hauv tus npau suav ntawm ib tug yeej muaj tseeb, sib sib zog nqus, tag nrho cov-consuming kev hlub cas los txog rau txhua tus neeg. Ib txhia xws xav mus saib nyob rau hauv 16 lub xyoos, lwm leej lwm tus yog xav txog nws tiag xwb since xyoo 40, thiab tsuas yog lub thib peb thiab puas tau tsuas mus rau ib tug heev qub muaj hnub nyoog pib mus xav txog nws tus kheej siav rau hauv no lawm. Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav tau kev hlub, yuav tsum tau tam sim no?

Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, ib tug me ntsis kev tshawb xav. Hom kev hlub piav npaum li ntawd, nws yog ib qho yooj yim mus tau tsis meej pem thaum nyeem ntawv loj qhov chaw nyob rau hauv qhov kev kawm. Feem ntau piv ob hom ntawm ntau dua txoj kev xav - Eros thiab AGAPE. Tab sis nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb niaj hnub qhov chaw emit tsawg kawg yog 8 hom ntawm kev hlub. Peb yuav qhia rau koj txog ob hais. Peb pib nrog AGAPE, uas yog suav hais tias yog feem ntau "noble" txoj kev hlub. Cov hom yuav tsum tau ib tug siab txi, mob siab, tsis tu ncua xav txog yuav ua li cas kom haum ib tug neeg hlub ib tug. Christian qhov chaw xa mus rau no hom ntawm kev hlub yog zoo tshaj plaws. Nyob rau hauv kev xyaum, cov net AGAPE nyob rau hauv tib neeg lub neej yuav luag tsis tshwm sim, vim nws muaj ntau tsis unselfishness. Nws yog ntseeg hais tias tus neeg no yuav hlub tsuas Vajtswv. Eros - txoj kev hlub ntawm lub ntiaj teb, yus muaj los ntawm sensuous attraction thiab kuj zoo kawg xim cev nqaij daim tawv attractiveness lover. Nws yog ib qhov zoo ntawm kev hlub yog quaj tawv heev nce los ntawm loj kab lis kev cai. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, los ntawm nws tus kheej txoj kev hlub ntawm Eros tsis yog ib tug phem tshaj plaws. Tab sis ntawm no yog ua kom pom tseeb rau ntawm nws raws li ib qho zoo tagnrho yog tsis nqi nws yog koj muab koj tus kheej cov hauj lwm ntawm "Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav tau kev hlub muaj tseeb." Zoo mus coj ib tug qauv ntawm txoj kev hlub-agape.

Nyob rau hauv kev, cov lus nug "Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav tau kev hlub?" Yog tsis zoo xa. Tom qab tag nrho, ib tug yeej muaj tseeb kev txiav txim zoo ntawm tsis nrhiav, tsim nws. Yog li ntawd, lo lus nug yuav tsum tau reformulated ib tug me ntsis txawv, "Yuav ua li cas nrhiav tau ib tug khub uas koj yuav tsim sib sib zog nqus kev ntseeg siab thiab sov kev sib raug?" Tab sis ib tug ntau nyob ntawm koj tus kheej, nyob rau koj cov kev txawj thiab kam los tsim kom tau kev sib raug zoo. Thiab ces rau lo lus nug yuav tsum: "Yuav ua li cas kuv yuav tsum tau ua kom lawv muaj kev sib raug zoo, tsim nyog yuav tsum tau hu ua kev hlub muaj tseeb?". Lo lus teb rau ob qho tib si cov lus nug.

Yuav ua li cas nrhiav tau ib tug khub yog tias kev cai zoo li nrhiav tsis tau kev pab rau npoj yaig thiab phooj ywg? Xa mus rau lub Internet. Ib tug zoo kev xaiv - yos qhov chaw, xws li cov thoob ntiaj teb. Qhov tseeb hais tias cov kev xaiv ntawm nthuav cov neeg nyob thoob ntiaj teb qhov chaw ntau lug. Nyob rau ib tug interesting "teb chaws" tus neeg sib tw (poj niam sib tw) yuav tau dab tsi rau kaum rau nees nkaum txawv teb chaws. Ntiaj teb thoob plaws nws tsis tau muaj lub Lavxias teb sab-hais lus hais mav thiab cov ntxhais. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, tsis tag nrho cov kawm cov lus yooj yim. Tab sis ib tug tshiab hom lus, nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub, yog pab tau rau koj, thiab nws tseem pab tau rau ib txoj hauj lwm, thiab kev loj hlob. Yeej muaj tseeb kev hlub yuav tsum tau ib tug peev ntawm lub sij hawm thiab kev rau siab. Koj nyob nraum npaj rau nws nrhiav tau ntawm dab tsi? Zoo, xyaum txawj hais lus. Tab sis tsis txhob muaj mus sib tam chaw. Muaj yog tseem txaus siab pab pawg nyob rau hauv Internet, thematic forums. Koj yuav nrhiav tau ib tug neeg uas nyiam cov tib phau ntawv raws li koj muaj, thiab zoo nyiam yog yuav luag guaranteed hais tias koj yuav tham txog.

Yuav ua li cas yuav tsum tau koj ua li cas rau ib tug kev sib raug zoo nrog ib tug zoo khub los tsim kom tau? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, kawm zam txim rau. Txawm nyob rau hauv lub feem ntau harmonious officers kev tshwm sim ntawm kev tsis sib haum thiab sib cav sib ceg. Yog li ntawd, tsis muaj tus muaj peev xwm zam txim rau thiab tsis nco qab ib tug zoo kev sib raug zoo muaj peev xwm ua tsis tau. Tsheb ciav hlau nyob rau hauv kev sib raug zoo nrog sawv daws yuav txheeb hais tias koj twb muaj. Thaum koj uas twb muaj lawm kev sib raug zoo yuav tsis tau zoo, nws ua rau tsis muaj kev txiav txim zoo yuav pib nrhiav ib tug khub, thiab koj yuav tsum tsis nco qab txog lo lus nug "Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav tau kev hlub." Thaum kev sib raug zoo txhim kho, peb yuav tau mus rau kauj ruam tom ntej: qhia koj tus kheej rau lossi nrhiav txoj kev los thov cov neeg nyob ze rau koj. Nws yuav ua tau ib tug sincere qab ntxiag lus, me me los yog tsis-committal khoom plig los yog dab neeg nyob rau hauv ib txoj kev zoo rau peb cov neeg (lus xaiv vice versa). Tseem yuav tsum tau kawm mus nrhiav tus zoo nyob rau hauv cov neeg nyob ib ncig ntawm, nws yuav pab koj pom lub ntiaj teb no nyob rau hauv ib tug txawv txoj kev thiab nws yog txaus nyiam heev neeg, yog li ntawd koj yuav yooj yim mus nrhiav tau kev hlub. Zaum thiab sau rau ib daim ntawv ntawm daim ntawv tsawg kawg yog 10 ntawm qhov zoo tshaj plaws zoo ntawm ib tug neeg hlub ib tug uas koj pom tau tias nws tsis yooj yim. Nws yuav tau ib tug zoo kev kawm thiab kev npaj los mus xyuas kom meej tias koj nyiam nws yav tom ntej xaiv ib tug los yog tus hlub.

Yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav tau kev hlub? Cia li nthuav lub geography ntawm kev tshawb fawb thiab pib mus ua hauj lwm rau koj tus kheej. Thiab tsis ntev yuav muaj ib tug koj tau tos tag nrho kuv lub neej.