Perfectionist: uas yog nws?

Perfectionist: lub sij hawm

Ib txhia neeg hais: perfectionist - uas yog qhov no? Ua li no, koj yuav tsum txhais tau lwm lub tswv yim: Perfectionism (los ntawm Fabkis perfection - perfection.) - tsim los ntawm upbringing thiab ib puag ncig heightened lub siab xav rau tib neeg zoo nyob rau hauv tag nrho nws ua thiab tus cwj pwm. Raws li, ib tug perfectionist - ib tug neeg uas yog peculiar perfektsiionizm. Nws yog ntxias ntawm tau thiab qhov yuav tsum tau mus cuag perfection nyob rau hauv thawj qhov chaw nyob rau hauv kev sib raug zoo rau nws tus kheej. Muaj ntau psychologists, txawm li cas los, ntseeg hais tias perfectionism - tsis yog ib tug virtue, tab sis ib tug loj tus kheej teeb meem uas tsim tsawg self-esteem ntawm tus neeg, raws li zoo li ib tug tsis zoo feem nyob rau hauv nws ua tau zoo. Perfectionist tsis pom lub "golden mean", tiamsis nws tsuas muaj ob extremes: qhov phem tshaj thiab zoo tshaj - nws zoo tagnrho. Nws tsis pom lub grey, muaj tsuas yog dub thiab dawb rau nws. Rau nws muaj nws tsuas yog tus "tagnrho" thiab "tsis zoo tagnrho" thiab tsis "tagnrho" yog txhua yam tab sis zoo tagnrho. Nyob rau hauv lwm yam lus, nws thov kom ua txhua yam zoo kawg nkaus, zoo dua lwm tus, los yog ua dab tsi nyob rau tag nrho cov, thiab nws yog nyob rau hauv tag nrho cog qoob loo. Nws hais tias qhov kev thov kev pab tsis muaj zog.

Perfectionist - uas yog nws?

Yog ib tug neeg uas tej zaum xav tsis muaj dab tsi mus cuag dua mus cuag ib yam dab tsi tsis siab. Cov neeg uas nws xav muab tso rau unrealistically siab cov hom phiaj rau nws. Perfectionists yog nkag rau pej xeem lub tswv yim. Lawv touches tej thuam. Perfectionists yuav mus nkaum lawv cov shortcomings los ntawm lwm tus neeg. Lawv yog cov ntshai las lawv weaknesses. Yog li ntawd, lawv ua txhua yam uas nyob ntawm lawv yuav tsum tau zoo meej. Tsis ua hauj lwm los yog tsis ua hauj lwm qhia tau hais tias lawv hais tias lawv muaj peev xwm tsis zoo rau lawv tus kheej. Raws li ib tug tshwm sim, lawv xav tias puas, thiab lawv tus kheej dauv.

Yuav ua li cas los mus txiav txim raws li qhov uas koj ua ntawv thov lo lus "perfectionist"? Leej twg yog nws, thiab yuav ua li cas qhia hais tias nws?

1) Koj yog luag hauj lwm heev, ntshai yuav ua rau ib tug yuam kev, koj yog attentive heev rau kev nthuav dav.

2) Koj puas xav ua txhua yam raws li qhov zoo tshaj plaws li sai tau, hom phiaj.

3) koj siv sij hawm ntau heev rau kev txhim kho dab tsi.

4) Koj muab lub meej hom phiaj, tab sis txhua tsav txhua yam yog tsis tau rau koj.

5) Koj yog qhov loj tshaj plaws critic ntawm nws tus kheej.

6) Koj yog painfully li cas rau tus thuam ntawm lwm tus neeg.

7) Koj yuav nco ntsoov sawv cev rau lub hom phiaj, milestones tsis muaj qab hau rau koj.

Yuav ua li cas yog tias perfectionism yog tsis ib txwm ib tug vice? Xav txog tej yam dab tsi hauv lub ntiaj teb no yuav tsis muaj tus zoo tej hauj lwm ntawm lub ntiaj teb cov ntaub ntawv, painting, architecture, tsis muaj kuj zoo kawg thiab zoo kawg nkaus composers? Cia saib nws los ntawm ib tug txawv foundations. Perfectionist - uas yog nws? Qhov no txiv neej lub tswv yim zoo txhim, creator, creator. Creator cia li yuav tsum tau ib tug perfectionist, los yog ib tug txawj sau ntawv uas tsim nws ua hauj lwm, muaj peev xwm muab tau thiab hais tias, sau ntawv rau thawj zaug, "los thiab yog li ntawd," los yog "zoo xwb." Yog peb muaj peev xwm nyeem "Faust," "Notre Dame", yog Goethe thiab Hugo yuav tsis tau perfectionists? Peb yuav xav txog tus Mona Lisa, thiab tam sim no yog da Vinci yuav tau txiav txim siab tsis mus coj mus rau kev zoo tag nrho cov duab saum toj no smiles tej?

Peb yuav tsis tau hnov qhov "Four Seasons" los ntawm Vivaldi muaj nyob rau kev ua si rau nkauj laus ncas hais tias: "Kuv yuav tsis ua hauj lwm cov neeg sab nrauv, thiab thiaj li nws yog dab tsi." Yog li, perfectionism yog zoo xwb nyob rau hauv tej cheeb tsam ntawm peb lub neej uas tiag tiag xav tau ib tug zoo tagnrho uas yuav rau siab. Txawm li cas los, mus cuag lub zoo tagnrho yog tsis yooj yim nyob rau hauv lub neej txhua hnub, rau lub zej zog nyob rau hauv uas peb nyob no nyob deb ntawm zoo tagnrho. Yog li ntawd seb puas los yog tsis tau pub lawv tus kheej meaningless illusions? Koj cia li yuav tsum nyob thiab txaus siab rau txhua tus me tshaj plaws?